Tuesday, December 30, 2008

When Your Boss Crosses The Line

Okay...I know I am grown and it's my responsibility to hold down a job. I also know that there is bullsh*t at every job and you can't get mad and quit everytime something comes up at the gig, HOWEVER, there are some instances where integrity is questioned and your boss crosses the line!!

I have a co-worker who boss talks to her in a very condescending way. She has tried to complain but the boss is company and HR favorite who everyone "thinks" can do no wrong. So it's a lose lose situation for my co-worker. She is miserable at work and can't do anything about it. She loves her job and what she does, it's just that the micro-management part is out of control and the tone that is used that when being spoken to.

Her boss told her that talking to her is like talking to her 3 yr old daughter and she doesn't want to bring herself down stooping to her level. My co-worker has a report to do every morning and evening. The boss makes a point to tell her everyday as if she doesn't know which is really weird because she's been there for a year now. When the weather is bad, she'll tell my co-worker, "You can leave." But then she'll say, I didn't tell her to leave and then this big argument about whether she told the girl she could go home or not.

I think that although things happen at the gig, and I know I have financial responsibilities, I will not be disrespected. When you start taking the work home with you, it's just too much. At a previous job, I had a manager tell me he would decided what's important to me. I politely informed him that no one could decided what's important to me. I understand you're a manager, but you don't manage my life, you manage the job. I left because as long as he felt that way, there was no way you could really get ahead.

I just want to know what are some your worse experiences and how should you handle bosses who like to flaunt their professional power while treating you like a peasant? What's Your Opinion?

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Single Ladies

Okay, we all know that Beyonce has her new song, "Single Ladies: Put A Ring On It." It has sparked debate about how long a woman should have to wait before her guy pops the question. Is it okay if he never does as long as you're together? Should we as "single ladies" put the ultimatum down or should we wait patiently (within a reasonable timeframe) to be proposed to?

I am currently a single lady. I think about marriage, but not in the aspect of when it's going to happen, but will my game plan go the way I want it to. I currently do not have any children but I hope to have at least one soon. I said I would not have children if I didn't have them by age 30, but I am knocking on that door soon. With that being said, I made the personal decision that I waited this long, so I matter as well wait on a husband to help me raise my future child(ren). If I was to enter a serious relationship, how long should I wait for the proposal? Well, after talking to some of my single friends, some say they will tell their mate after 2 years something needs to happen. I don't feel like you should press a man to marry you. I think that is like begging. Giving an ultimatum is kind of deep too. What if he proposes to shut you up, but then you're engaged for five years or worse, it doesn't work out because he didn't want to marry you in the first place!! That's some BS if you know what I mean. Just because you have been with someone for an "X" amount of years doesn't mean they're the ONE for you. Would you settle for less to get the pretty rock on that left ring finger?

I have dated a couple of men in my life and two I was serious about. They were some of the "toughest" for lack of a better word, men you knew. A guys guy. They would bring up marriage. They would say, "We should get married" or "One day, I'm gonna marry you." So I think that if a man wants to marry you, he will express signs or comment on it. Women don't give credit to men for some things. Men don't fall in love quick, but when they do, they love hard. I believe that if a man really loves you and wants to marry you, he will muster up enough courage to ask. If you have been with someone for 7 years and they have not mentioned marriage at all, then they probably won't.

Overall, I don't know what the time frame should be. I know I wouldn't wait to invest five years into someone who can't see themselves spending the rest of their life with me, but I don't know if I would be ready in two years either. It's a decision that comes with the course of the relationship, so What's Your Opinion?